dedicated to u

u sure u want me to enlighten u? are u veri sure? since u want a heart to heart dialogue perhaps i shud represent the rest to give u a piece of our minds. I tink im reali excited to talk abt this issue too. Aiya if I didn’t blog abt suli’s and baoli’s bdae celebration..i dun tink u even rmb lor. As if u bother liddat. Frankly speaking, u rmb meh? Or after u read the long outdated email from friendster bdae reminder huh. Stil dare to say frens for long time. Frens for long time won even forget one another bdae de leh. Or bdae is every year so to u it’s ok to miss one or 2. den liddat is your sincerity problem liao lor. Sms oso dun haf..or u selective de? Can enlighten me?
1.Maybe u can argue that not remembering our bdaes or getting us decent gifts doesn’t mean that you dun care abt us at all. But did you ever care abt what we need? It’s always all about you and how you think and wat you want to do. If you never do, it’s you forget la, dun mean it la, we outcast you la blah blah. We just need simple things like someone close to remember our bdaes, care to ask abt how to organize a gathering, or even just wishing us gd luck if u noe the day is very important to us. Do you know Suli is still very disappointed that you dun even remember her bdae? In fact this is not the first time.You always forget to even make the little effort to rmb or wish us on bdaes. U also nvr initiate to cele with us. sometimes even not turning up because you have your excuses. n oso reluctant to share for the present. to the extent we have to chase the $$ from u. not a veri appealing experience for ppl like suli n baoli. in de end, they give up. if u have the heart or reali treat us as your close frens, u shud haf taken the effort to rmb. not expecting us to keep remindin u. R we supposed to be your schedule book? wat does tis tell abt u?


2. i personally feel that u are a veri self centered person. anything related to havin fun or freebies u sure will be de 1st to spring to action. so when we didnt inform u abt it, u will comment y we didnt call u. but to our disgust, u nvr react in this way when u miss our bdaes. or issit becuz bdaes happen every year so it's not veri impt? so i guess yr bdae is not veri impt oso. u expect ppl to rmb yr bdae, shower u with present when u yourself are not living to this expectation. like demanding yr present from us. anyway it's still with me. it reali turns me off y we shld bother when u dun even care.
3. to justify on our sides, we are the ones who is always calling, coordinating n u can jus say u are gg this trip la or haf to attend some veri impt function so end up missing our bdaes. we do make effort to change and accommodate to suit everyone. but u want us to change n suit u. isnt this veri insensitive or unreasonable? 5 ppl to accommodate u?? come on la, if u are a veri nice person in the beginning, 5 of us wont mind to accommodate u de.
4. ya we drift apart. U oni notice now cuz we stop involving u in our gathering. We shud haf done it long ago. Cuz it doesn’t make a difference to us having or not havin u in our group. although I still feel dat it’s quite frustrating dat we have to come to this conclusion. We did try to trash it out with u, from your punctuality prob to sincerity issue, we are areadi veri tired with u le. All u do is half hearted job den claim dat u change for the better den in de end go back to your old self. Do we have to teach or remind someone to b sincere? Or perhaps u can enlighten me in yr blog dat u are sincere in your way but we couldn’t see it or we couldn’t understand??
5. to list some horrible experience (it’s so horrible dat we cannot forget n occasionally still toking abt it) we got from you..pls look at the below:
- getting freebies from u as bdae present(u call this expensive gift some more cuz it some branded stuff) so?? Some more nvr consider whether it’s practical to the receiver. To us it’s more like u dun wan spend $$ dat’s y u r doin dat. Not cuz it’s branded dat’s y u wan to give. MAYBE it’s a secondary reason to u but to us yr Primary reason is: SAVE $$$! Can u imagine I give u some makeup for yr bdae n told u I look good in it so I give u..branded de leh..chanel hor. Den not even considerin whether yr skin tone suits it ma or yr skin allergic to it or not.
-sin n fei got u a bouquet of flowers for one of yr bdae remember? The 1st thing u do is not being appreciative, instead u complained” har I got it areadi le leh…” btw flowers are veri veri exp given to their context last time..haven even start working yet n stil bother to buy u flowers (sunflowers..yr fav some more.)
p/s it is perfectly fine to choose a gift that you reali like or u feel its good to some one, it will b better if u instill sincerity in the choosing of gift (by spending time n putting effort to look for it) n pls dun keep upholding the belief u are the poorest of all, so u deserve to give half hearted gift la. It’s not abt the price or monetary value. But it so bloody obvious dat u jus wan to save $$. Come on la..bdae oni once a year leh. We oso spend $$ on u de leh. U cannot save up de meh. U tink oni u savin to repay sch loan or gg some meaningful trip ah?? I oso got my sch loan to repay..i oso got my meaningful trip to go de leh. before u wan to give excuse or justify yourself. THINK first. Stop comparing us with u. if we are keeping quiet, doesn’t mean we are better off than u. perhaps this is the reason u keep thinking we live better life den u right? Or to me u r, still a veri self centered person.
- n the final thing. The chalet at sentosa.(phew..not bdae issue anymore) De sakae incident. Got to noe from suli dat u insist dat she recount the bill cuz u shudn’t b paying some extra cents. End up found out it’s my green tea dat all of u haf to share n pay on my behalf. My food was badly cooked thus I got it free of charge. So end up I didn’t pay for anything but I overlook my green tea cost. Ahem $0.99. even when I hear it was like wth. We nvr ever b so gek gao with u n yet u still insist on not payin for the extra cents. I can swear to God I dunno treat u guys how many times le n this is wat I get back. If u reali want so gek gao, I will do the same to u. tis is oni fair rite. So dun complain dat u are not involve in any free treats from me. but tinkin, I sound so childish. But heck lar. I dun care anymore. Doesn’t pay to b nice to u de. U are not appreciative at all. N I wonder, if u are reali so calculative u muz haf save quite a bit rite?? Den y cant u afford a decent present or even pay for it???


Some ppl after reading this blog may feel dat y is it revolving oni abt bdae cele la or bdae gifts la..but this is the oni chance dat brought the 6 of us together. N this is when u can show yr sincerity to frens, by turning up, or even initiatin to plan bdae for the bdae ger, coordinating sharing of present/ making a present blab la bla..so dun b mistaken..we are not demanding exp presents. But we are not expecting some half haearted present too. So i rather u dun give anythg n dun turn up.